I see these people hating on the ship
Then turn around and Gush over these ships that either ic have a character being an absolute jerk to the other (or WOULD be a jerk to the character) and they talk about how lovely and everything it is and wax on about fluff scenes that have a 0.1% chance of happening
It’s fine to not like ships but “complete assholes and toxic” though a step down from “abusive and toxic” – is STILL in line with all the things you rag on the abusive ships for
Someone doing one nice thing for another also is far from turning a relationship into a healthy one